China Girls Abroad


Second hand OR Brand new?


Once I asked a Chinese boy: “Why do you all want to marry a virgin?”


The boy thought about it for seconds, and said “Suppose, you are buying a house, would you like to buy a brand new one, or a second-hand one?”


Grumpy Bride

We want to know if China is going through its own version of the "swinging sixties". This was the period in which western culture exploded with new fashion, new styles, new music and the sexual revolution. We asked 30 Chinese girls abroad about their attituteds to sex before marriage. We found that 22 out of 30 chinagirlsabroad agreed with it. This result is very close to Sociologist Yinhe Li’s latest report, which claimed that “71.4% of Chinese have sex before they get married. It was only 15% in 1989 and 41% in 1994. This dramatic increase usually takes one or two hundred years in other countries.” (Central government’s official magazine: “Xiao Kang”, April 2012). So why is it happening now in China?


A fundamental reason is that the Opening and Reform policy exposed China to a world which is dominated by western culture. The films we watch are from Hollywood, the songs we sing include English ones, and the most popular soap operas among the young Chinese include “Gossip Girl”, “Sex and the City”, “Desperate Housewives” or “Friends”. The “models” from these TV dramas have influenced Chinese youngsters’ minds and behaviours. There is a cultural penetration which is about fashion, lifestyle and attitudes, and the sex revolution is definitely an important part of it.


Sex or Chocolate?What do girls prefer? Sex or Chocolate?

Well, it depends on where you come from. For ChinaGirlsAbroad, it is chocolate for most of them, but for the western girls it’s definitely sex!

But of course it depends on what time of the day it is. Some western girls said they would definitely choose chocolate if it were at lunch time, because they would be hungry……We asked 30 girls from China and 35 from Europe. The Chinese girls all giggled and covered their month as they laughed. The western girls laughed out loud, no hands on mouths for them, and some of them said the reason for choosing sex is because of “morning glory”! If you know the meaning of this, we won’t explain, but if you don’t, just think of it as your boyfriend being especially cheerful in the morning.


But the Chinese girls are much more conservative, only 14 chose sex. Is this to do with how good Chinese boys are at sex? Or is it just that in China we don’t get enough chocolate? Certainly when some ChinaGirlsAbroad go back, their western friends would send them food parcels of chocolate as gifts! Some Chinese girls just wanted tea or breakfast in the morning and one just wanted to brush her teeth. The western girls just thought they don’t know what they are missing! Some of the Chinese girls said they hadn’t had sex at all, so they couldn’t really choose. So come on Chinese boys, stop playing all those computer games and offer your girlfriends some chocolate! Feed them well and you never know what might happen!